“Grief is a weight that you carry around, it is unexpected and it will get you at the worst of times. You can’t decide what day it’s going to be, grief will decide. But it does get easier and you learn to live with it and it’s a bit nicer when you’ve learned how to live with it.”
Amelia’s dad Richard, died suddenly in April 2017 whilst she was away on a school trip in India.
She, said: “I remember they were teaching us the Tibetan words for “happy” and “sad” when Carol, the school librarian who was with us on the trip, interrupted our session to say that she needed to see me.
“She held my hand and took me upstairs to see the other teachers on the trip, Andy and John, in the library. She couldn’t speak and when I asked if everything was alright she just shook her head and held my hand tightly.
“They sat me down and Andy put his hand on my shoulder and told me he was very sorry but that Dad had died. From that moment on, everything “was a bit of a blur”.
“It’s been great to be part of the Film Club, to talk with the others and share our thoughts and feelings. We have all faced bereavement but our experiences are so personal. No two experiences are ever the same.
“I know that I feel and think about things far more deeply now. It’s really helped me to be part of this group and realise that I’m not alone. We hope that the film will help others like us who are feeling like that, who may be lost and isolated and overwhelmed. Just knowing that other people understand really helps.”
Emma Andrews, Family Support Practitioner at Tyndale Hospice at Home, said: “Whilst each of our young people’s experience of bereavement is very different they were determined to share their stories and tell it like it is without ‘sugar-coating’ their experiences.
“I think it can be especially hard for teenagers to open up and talk about how they are feeling. They can be self-conscious and they worry about what people think. These six young people have done a tremendous job in talking so honestly about their feelings and I’m extremely proud of what they have achieved.
“Already, it’s making a difference to other young people who are receiving our support. We show the film as part of one to one and family sessions and it really helps open up the conversations around death and bereavement.”